Recently, I was interviewed by a staff member of Indigo Books as a promotion for my children’s book, “My Mind Book.” The final question posed to me was absolutely the most important, “What do you think the world needs more of?”
A Course in Miracles teaches that “Wisdom is not judgment; it is the relinquishment of judgment.”
Why is this?
It is because we have the ego’s voice speaking to us and while we associate with the ego, we’re going to judge incorrectly. Ego judgments are all fear-based and are hurtful in every conceivable way. The ego is self-designed to perpetuate nonsense through encouraging us to compare ourselves to others, blame others for our own issues and by ultimately segregating people into different groups and levels where we all appear as different.
The ego thrives through judgement simply because it survives off of our seeming separation from each other. The more we appear separate from each other, the less we recognize that we are united, that we are One.
The mind is formless and abstract and is not contained within a body. It is the conscious mind (home of the ego) which sees separateness. But there is also wisdom resonating deep in our unconscious minds and that wisdom is this, we are all connected. Therefore, the collective mind is One. And somewhere, deep in our unconsciousness, we know that this is true.
This is why it is said that when we judge others we are actually judging ourselves. Indeed we are. In Gary Renard’s latest book, Love Has Forgotten No One, it is written that we should be careful of our judgements of others for the unconscious mind cannot decipher between a “you” and an “I” because there is no “You” and “I”, there is only “I”. A powerful statement, I know.
“Remember, your unconscious will translate whatever you think about others to be a message about you. That’s because even though you’re not aware of it, your unconscious mind knows everything, including the fact that there’s just one of you that thinks it’s here. That’s why everything you think about others is really a message from you, to you, about you. And that’s how your unconscious mind will think of it.”
Love Has Forgotten No One by Gary Renard, page 13
In our esoteric reality, there is no one else out there. There only seems to be. What we witness occurring over and over in our world is actually the perpetuation of fear fueled by judgment. Something fearful happens, the ego judges it as real, reacts to this fear with a further fear-based reaction and defends itself against the fear. All of which only cements the fear in our minds where the fear becomes habit. Fear has become our reality.
Try to recall how many ego thoughts you have had today. Numerous, right? How many of these fearful thoughts did you take seriously and get upset about? How preoccupied did you get thinking about someone or something? If you are busy judging and condemning others, you are hurting your own mind, destroying your self-esteem and polluting your body with negative energy. It is absolutely vital that we change our thinking processes and stop judging in the name of peace.
So what’s the remedy to thinking and judging with the ego? It all comes down to education. You have to understand why judging is not the way to go in the first place and once it becomes desirable to you to give up judging you can then begin actively switching to thinking with Spirit instead. Essentially, you want Spirit to become your habit. And remember, that because of the law of free will, Spirit cannot intervene unless invited to do so. So whenever you feel tempted to judge yourself or another, stop that process and switch it over to Spirit to judge for you. Easy!
There are many ways to invite Holy Spirit to the forefront of your mind. I always begin my day by saying, “Holy Spirit, you please be in charge of all of my thoughts and all of my actions today.” When I feel tempted by fear to judge, I immediately say, “Holy Spirit, take this from me, judging it for me. I don’t know how to judge, but you do. I leave it with you.” However you want to rock this out, go for it! But, if you are open to it, then never stop asking Spirit to be your guide. And when Spirit is in charge and something negative happens, you will see that the negativity is meaningless and only came up so it can be healed and so that you can be a demonstrator of peace.
Ultimately you will feel confident and be less reactive. The positivity, healing and peace that follows will be your evidence that this process is working. Patience and practice are required but, WOW! Is it ever worth it!!
“Recognizing that judgment was always impossible for him, he no longer attempts it. This is no sacrifice.”
A Course in Miracles, Manual for Teachers:10.2.5-6
For the purposes of being helpful and offering further clarity on this topic I will include this lengthy but awesome excerpt from A Course in Miracles. Grab a cup of java and enjoy the read.
“The aim of our curriculum, unlike the goal of the world’s learning, is the recognition that judgment in the usual sense is impossible. This is not an opinion but a fact. In order to judge anything rightly, one would have to be fully aware of an inconceivable wide range of things; past, present and to come. One would have to recognize in advance all the effects of his judgments on everyone and everything involved in them in any way. And one would have to be certain there is no distortion in his perception, so that his judgment would be wholly fair to everyone on whom it rests now and in the future. Who is in a position to do this? Who except in grandiose fantasies would claim this for himself?
Remember how many times you thought you knew all the ‘facts’ you needed for judgment, and how wrong you were! Is there anyone who has not had this experience? Would you know how many times you merely thought you were right, without ever realizing you were wrong? Why would you choose such an arbitrary basis for decision making? Wisdom is not judgment; it is the relinquishment of judgment. Make then but one more judgment. It is this: There is Someone with you Whose judgment is perfect. He does know all the facts; past, present and to come. He does know all the effects of His judgment on everyone and everything involved in any way. And He is wholly fair to everyone, for there is no distortion in His perception.
Therefore lay judgment down, not with regret but with a sigh of gratitude. Now are you free of a burden so great that you could merely stagger and fall down beneath it. And it was all illusion. Nothing more.”
A Course in Miracles – Manual for Teachers, Section 10
When we embrace the Spirit ever-present in our minds, we begin to see love everywhere. We see the uniqueness and talents of ourselves and others. We see the beauty in different cultures. We become inspired by the accomplishments of others. These are loving ways to view the world and its supposed differences.
In one of my favourite books of all time, The Disappearance of the Universe (a must-read for any student of A Course in Miracles!), there is an excerpt which concludes the book. The conclusion is one of the most beautifully written reminders of our Oneness. I say this quote in my head whenever I know someone has an issue with me or if I have an issue with them (judgment!). So I use this quote to remind myself of our Reality. “I love you my brothers and sisters who are really me but do not yet fully know it. Be grateful for the opportunities to forgive each other and thus yourselves.”
Love and Non-judgment,