The ego series continues with the “effects of the ego”, what they are and how to deal with them.
The effects of the ego are numerous, they range from mild irritation all the way to full blown, murderous rage. But they all exist under the same umbrella, the umbrella of fear. So, although they may show up as differing in degrees of harshness, they are all the same because they are all products of the ego, keeping you identified with the ego. Do not be deceived, it is never mentally healthy to hold onto any seeming degree of negativity.
Now, the ego is conniving and it will always make you think that you are justified in holding onto its effects, a dynamic I like to call, “the obligation of the ego.” The ego wants you to get stuck into the details through your analyzing, calculating, defending and questioning of every fearful scenario.
But, this need not be. The obligation of the ego is your devotion to fear. Your analyzing of fear-based scenarios is also your devotion to fear. Again, this truly need not be.
A Course in Miracles teaches that fear is not scary for what it is, but for its hiddenness. Which is true when you think about it… for example, a boogeyman would be scary if he popped out at you out of nowhere! He wouldn’t be nearly so scary if he was chilling out next to you on the couch all afternoon, would he?
We want to see this ego dynamic clearly and for what it is because here we see that fear can actually become quite transparent when we acknowledge its lingering presence.
So, you look over to the boogeyman on the couch and say “Hey, what’s up? Why are you here?”
The power in acknowledging fear is that you haven’t denied it thus repressing it, you’ve called it out and now you can see it for what it is, ego. And what is ego? A mistake in your thinking. So, the fear is present because you made a mistake in your thinking, you identified with your ego.
When you see that fear really is just a mistake in your thinking, it’s lost its creepiness. Remember that in order for the ego to keep fear around it has to make it desirable to you in some way, the ego will then have to label the fear one of its many names to make it special to you. Feelings like shame, resentment, embarrassment, anger, frustration, and betrayal, are examples of a few fear names the ego will use in order for you to feel obligated to it and pick the situation apart, or for you to repress it because it seems just too painful to look at.
Elaborating on this; analyzing the effects of the ego will strengthen the idea in your mind, and your brain will develop the neural pathways to support your egoic thinking. Repressing the fear will send it back into your unconscious mind where it will surely jump out of the closet again to terrify you at some point in the future.
So, when fear creeps up, you have an opportunity to use it for healing and therefore not let it be a burden which plagues you. It is fully within your power to make this choice as it is also a Law of the Mind, the Law of Free Will.
Those of us on the healing path have chosen to take responsibility for our lives, our experiences and our perceptions of the world and in so doing we have given fear the green light to come up so we can deal with it. You have signed up to come from the level of cause, the level of your mind, and not let the world happen to you. This is using the effects of the ego to your advantage so you are no longer a victim, AWESOME!!
Let’s recap the steps to letting fear go safely…
– Recognize that you are upset.
– Acknowledge that the upsetting issue is fear itself. Name it as fear, not as a label of fear. All negativity is under the umbrella of fear. Don’t make it special, it’s not. Just call it what it is, fear.
– Remember that fear is of the ego.
– Remind yourself of what the ego is, a mistake in your thinking.
– Declare that mistakes are to be corrected and that you would like to have this fear thought corrected in your mind.
– Let Love (whatever name you have given for Love is perfect here) make the correction.
If the fear thought pops up again, remind yourself that you have asked Love to correct your thinking and you leave it there. One of the biggest steps in letting fear heal is TRUST. Again, the ego is going to want you to feel obligated to fear and that if you choose to heal, it will become very threatened and may very well amp up a bit, but don’t give in! Your vigilance is required!
Now, remember that when we have a fear thought we are going to feel a physical effect reflecting that fear. Nausea, tension, pain, and the like are all the physical effects of egoic thinking. When you have taken the steps to correct your mistaken thinking, you may still feel the residual uncomfortable physical effects of the initial fear thought, so be patient and let the effect subside, don’t judge it further which will just send you into a strong cyclical pattern of fear.
Next, also remember that we all have some pretty deep neural pathways of fear, so essentially fear is a strong habit for us which makes it easy for us to continue to think negatively once we’ve had an initial fear thought. Again, vigilance is vital to undoing your ego. Take a deep breath, and build the neural pathways of Love. Practice, practice, practice!
Make fear meaningless to you, make Love your habit, that is your Free Will.
Love and Correction,